Black Femininity | Increasing Feminine Energy As a Masculina

Many of us were raised by masculinas, so soft feminine energy may not come natural. A lot of us were brought up in single mother households, or saw our mothers heavily in her masculine. As a result, many of us once believed that it was our duty to take care of everything, and become strong independent women. Too many women seemingly sacrificing their femininity in the name of getting things done. As a naturally dominant woman myself (s/o Leo gang) I sometimes struggle to balance my feminine and masculine energy. It’s super important that as black women we nurture our femininity. Adopting a feminine lifestyle is the key to increasing your quality of life for any and every woman.

In these modern times it’s important to safeguard our femininity because it’s constantly under attack. Society wants us to be masculine so bad, and unfortunately many times we tend to play right into that role. Too much enthusiasm in our voice, and suddenly we’re labeled “angry” or “aggressive”. Our ability to tolerate trauma has caused us to be thought of as strong. When in reality we need rest. Nonetheless, we have to be strategic about the energy we put into the world. Here are four ways to increase your femininity, and replace your masculine habits.

Take care of yourself.

This is a big one. Act like you care about yourself. Don’t leave the house in anything you wouldn’t want your crush to see you in. Eat right and make sure you’re getting the proper nutrition, so that your body and brain can function. Clean up your room. Do whatever it is you need to do to feel good. Feminine energy is peaceful, not chaotic. A messy environment, mentally or physically cannot bring peace and prosperity. Your mind, body, and soul has to be maintained which requires constant attention from you.

A woman that takes care of herself is a woman that show the world she loves, appreciates, and values herself. She shows people her worth by treating herself accordingly. Making yourself a priority is by far the easiest way to instantly increase your feminine energy.

Related: A Guide To Becoming a High Value Woman

Stop competing with men

Serious question: why do y’all want to be men so bad? Tbh it’s gross. I constantly see women on Twitter saying how men will take care of “bum bitches” but don’t want to do anything for a “boss bitch”. Sis, (smh) first, you sound like a pick me. Secondly, your whole vibe screams I DON’T NEED A MAN. We were made in God’s image to compliment men, not compete with them.

Flaunting your independence does what? and for who? Unless you’re in a competitive environment, like work, then I do not recommend going tic for tac with men. Your strategy should always incorporate some of your feminine strengths. Too many women think men are attracted by their success and accolades which is dead wrong. When you lead with your accomplishments you attract men that want to use and abuse. A masculine man is seeking to provide not be provided for he does not care what you have.

Related: The Importance of Being a Soft Woman for Black Women

Heal

Ladies, we all have trauma, and it is our responsibility to process then grow from our pain. You have to be the realest person you know because no one is gonna be as honest with you as you have to be with yourself. Only when we’re honest with ourselves can we really start to make the adjustments necessary to better our life.

Unfortunately, healing is hardly ever linear. There will be triggers along your healing journey that will remind you of how unhealed you are. That’s exactly why they’re called growing pains. Because it’s painful, and it sucks. However, as we continue to heal it does get better.

I’m always advocating for therapy. I believe everyone in the world should have a therapist. Do the hard work of looking in yourself, and addressing your pain. This is the number one thing that has to be done in order to increase femininity.

Protect your energy

When I say protect your energy I mean do it as of your life depends on it, because it does. If you have a toxic parent, friend, or co-worker limit your interactions with them as much as possible. Energy is real, and very transferable. Do not let someone’s else negativity bring you down or out of character.

Also, there is no need to constantly be in defense mode, or combative as women. This kills feminine energy. You have to be at peace within yourself, so you can bring peace and joy to others.

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