8 Reasons Why Guys Keep Ghosting You

In the spirit of spooky seasons let’s talk about why you keep getting ghosted. No matter who you are, dating can be difficult. Ladies, it’s important to acquire the knowledge required to be successful in dating. The dating choices you make literally determine the quality of your life. Love isn’t always easy, but it shouldn’t be a warzone or constant confusion either. Too many of us settle for far less than we deserve. We over complicate situations and read too much into things when in reality men are rather simple once you understand them.

Clearly put: a man will show you how he feels with his actions. If you think a man is sending mixed signals that is a sign he’s not that into you. I know that’s hard to hear, but the sooner you realize it’s the truth the better. A man that is truly interested will make his intentions clear. Focus on being the best you possible (mentaily, physically, and emotionally), and there will be men breaking down your door to get to you. If it’s not your current flame, then next, simple.

Here are the top 8 reasons guys keep ghosting you..

1. He doesn’t like you.. or at least not enough
2. He’s not attracted to you
3. You’re more into him than he is you
4. You let your guard down too soon
5. You’re uninteresting. You’re boring. You are basic.
6. There are other women in the picture
7. You’re messy af
8. He’s a loser

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He doesn’t like you

*brace yourself for some tough love*

Stop over complicating it. If he isn’t consistent in his actions and pursuit of you there’s nothing more to figure out. He doesn’t like you like that. If he did he would be consistent with you.

It doesn’t matter that he watches your story everyday or if he texted you again after you stopped responding days ago. If he is not consistently trying to see you, talk to you, or somehow be involved in your life, then he is just not that interested. Next caller please!

He’s not attracted to you

Think about it like this: If his dream girl is kim k and by some odd occurence she became his girlfriend he would do everything in his power to keep her happy. That’s how he needs to treat you! A lot of being a man’s dream girl comes down to physical attraction. The more physically attracted a man is to you the better it is for your relationship.

As they say men are visual and it’s very true! Many different types of women can fall into a man’s type, but nonetheless he still has a type. If he likes girls with curves and curly hair while you’re skinny and have straight hair you might not be his type. Try not to take this too personal. If he doesn’t like you, fine, someone else will think you’re perfect as you are!

You’re more into him than he is to you

You probably think he is the hottest man to ever exist. I hear girls say this all the time. You should be attracted to him, but it is most important that he’s attracted to you!

Your focus should be less on his looks and more about how he treats you. I do think it’s important that you’re attracted to him, however, he should not have to be the sexiest man alive for you to be interested. Only person you should ever put on a pedestal is yourself. A man should always feel like you are the prize to win. In his pursuit of you is where he his attraction builds.

A man has to chase you. Period. He is always the one doing the pursuing. If he is not consistently pursuing you than he does not want you. Never let a man tell you he doesn’t want you twice.

You let your guard down too soon

A man in his purpose wants a woman in her purpose. Not someone that will give up her life as soon as she finds a man that’s somewhat interesting. Until a guy shows you he’s trustworthy by consistently being a man of his word over an extended period of time do not trust him. Men respect and appreciate things they had to earn. Make him earn you!

If you give up the goods or let him in too soon he’ll think you do that with every man and will no longer see you as someone to win over. He will more than likely immediately loose interest.

You’re boring

Do you struggle with being a people pleaser? Are you always bending over backwards to accommodate his change of plans? If so, stoooooop! Men, though they may never say this aloud, they appreciate a challenge. This goes back to one of my earlier points: let him earn you.

Be so obsessed with your own life that he wants to be involved because all the other girls he knows wait on him, and create plans around him. Live a life you love! Regardless of dating this will serve you well in life.

There are other women in the picture

Depending on where a man is at in his life he might just be playing the field while you’re looking for something committed. If so, move on and find someone that’s looking for the same things as you. Do waste your time hoping he’ll change his mind nor should you settle for a piece of him because all of him isn’t available.

Also, considering the dating world is a mess, and everyone is only halfway single there’s a good chance he’s still dealing with his ex, and is on-and-off with her. Make sure to ask the right questions so you can understand more before getting your feelings involved.

You’re messy af

You barely know left from right, you make your business everyone’s business, you are just all over the place. No one wants a project… well I guess some men do, but I don’t know if that’s most men. It is possible he felt like you had too much going on that he didn’t know where he would fit in your life.

If men are ghosting you more often than not focus on yourself and find a way to better yourself. Learn what to look for in a man and what may not be as important as you thought. In time the right one will find you.

He’s a loser

Sometimes it’s not even worth your time to try and figure out why a man ghosted you. Maybe he’s gay, maybe he’s broke, maybe he died? (lol jk!). But regardless of the reason, if he is not pursuing you as a woman he’s highly interested in than he simply is not worth your time.

There is no sense in repeating everything you said to him in your head and wondering if you did anything wrong. The man that is for you will stick around, no matter how many “mistakes” you make.

I know it sucks being ghosted, but honestly it’s time saved!