Becoming THAT GIRL💕 How To Level Up In 2022

I can’t believe it’s been a whole year since writing How To Level Up In 2021. I’m so excited that we’re at this point again and it’s time to goal set for the next 12 months. If 2021 wasn’t the year you shined we’re making sure 2022 is!

Becoming THAT GIRL takes discipline. I know the girlies on Tiktok make it look aesthetically pleasing and easy to accomplish your goals, but as we all know nothing worth having comes easy. If you want to level up in 2022 then you have to rid yourself of people, places, and habits that no longer serve you.

To start, you need an objective (goal) and tentative plan on how you’re going to achieve it. Simply wanting to be better is not enough. Find what the experts do and mimic it the best you can until you develop your own method. Here are 6 ways to level up in 2022.

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Tune out the noise

Everyone, and I mean everyone, will think they know what’s best for you. If you are not able to decipher between what’s useful information and what is noise you will struggle. I think all criticism should be taken with a grain of salt. Everyone is limited to their own perspective. The most unqualified people will truly believe their advice is key to your success. Remember this: no one knows what’s better for you than yourself. One of the most valuable skills you can have is knowing how to tune out the noise. Learn to trust yourself and your intuition.

Sometimes the loudest noise is our own inner critic. The world is a cold place, and shows it’s bitter face every now and again. When it feels like everything is against you you cannot be against yourself. Tuning out the noise is about being bigger than petty thoughts. It’s about being our own biggest fan and showing up for ourselves as much as possible.

ALWAYS look cute

I don’t care if you’re going to the lobby to pick up your takeout. Make sure you are presentable at every point you come into contact with the public. Perfect example: I’m sitting here on our balcony thinking I’m safe meanwhile there’s talk on the sidewalk below me of real estate & investors. If I was dressed for the day I would be comfortable putting myself out there for a potential connection to be made, but I wasn’t ready. As they say, “stay ready so you don’t have to get ready”. Everyone knows pretty girls receive preferential treatment, so always make sure you look cute!

By no means am I saying you need to be in a full face of makeup or in heels 24/7. However, please look like you prepared yourself for the day. That means a clean face, hair neat, and clothes that suit your body. I’m telling you the world is so much nicer the more attractive you are!

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Prioritize wellness

Now, if you’ve been reading my blog for a while then you know I’m aiming for milf status. The older I get the more serious I am about being a future milf. Being healthy is more than looking good. It’s a lifestyle that you have to embody in your mind, body, and spirit.

A few ways to develop better eating habits

meal prep
plenty of fruits and vegetables (juicing perhaps?)
cut back on alcohol

limit sugar intake

I’ve noticed that the women who stay really thin do pilates, yoga, barre, running or something like that. They don’t seem to use heavy weights nor is there a focus on lifting. I’m going to write an entire blog post on wellness soon going into depth on the best exercises etc. But really, the girls the get it get it, and the girls that don’t don’t.

Ways to stay in better shape…

walk frequently
drink plenty of water
yoga or pilates

keep stress levels low

Release your ego

Yeah, this one is hard.

I don’t think we ever realize just how much our ego controls us. For example, always needing to be right, fearing rejection, spending too much time thinking about what other people think of us, being defensive. It’s all rooted in ego. The ego wants to convince us that we’re not good enough or that something is innately wrong with us. To level up in 2022 you have to let go of all the no longer serves you.

I almost feel like ego is the devil playing in our ear trying to scare us out of our greatness. God is a God of love and prosperity. He would never send us messages of inadequacy about ourselves. Learning when your ego is protecting you and when it’s holding you back is a *major key.

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Practice humble confidence

Everyone says they like confident people, but in reality people really like humbleness. By all means, be confident, but let your confidence show in silence. You don’t have to announce moves or convince anyone that you’re destined for greatness. Let everyone see the light inside of you by how you carry yourself and how you give to the world.

Humble confidence is when you let your actions show your confidence, but you’re modest conversationally. A confident person is not confident because they say they are, but instead they show their confidence by betting on themselves.

Make a 12 month plan (break it down into weeks, days, and hours)

We spend far too many hours of the day goofing off. Watching tv, scrolling, daydreaming or something else that is ultimately not getting us closer to our goals. I love the expression a day you fail to plan for is a day easily wasted because it’s very true. Time is always passing, and if you do not become better at managing your time soon it will pass. It’s important we take the time we’re given and use it wisely. I highly suggest getting a planner.

First create your annual goals, break those into monthly goals, divide that up weekly, then daily, until you’re down to the hours. It very important to get to a point where you are time blocking (planning down to the hour) because that is where greatness it truly acheive. I use a notebook, planner, and google calendar. Once I started time blocking I noticed a huge change in my productivity.

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