Ok, if there’s one thing I know and 2 for certain it’s that: it’s rough out here. Dating these days comes with a lot of nonsense. There seems to be a lot of confused men to sift through to find your Prince Charming. But I also know, dating is a skill. And just like other skills, dating can be learned.
After months of downloading, deleting and re-downloading dating apps several times (in my prime single era) I’ve perfected the science of the perfect hinge dating profile for feminine women and how to attract successful men. I know there is a lot of discussion out there about the con’s of on online dating (specifically hinge), but I think it’s one of the better dating apps and a great place to find a good man.
If I know my readers (and I believe I do) I know the exact man you want to attract. He’s handsome (enough lol), successful, kind, generous, marriage minded, and gives you princess treatment (amongst other things). Although this type of man is rare, he’s not as rare as you think, but he is looking for certain qualities in the women he dates. In order to attract this guy you also have to be what HE’S looking for!
As a heads up, this strategy may get you a first date, but be sure to do your homework and VET THESE MEN THOROUGHLY before meeting anyone in person!
Without anymore introduction, here’s is how to create the perfect dating profile to attract successful men!
Photos – Get His Attention the Right Way
This should come as no surprise that it’s the most important factor of your profile. We all know men are visual creatures, and he needs to get a good idea of your beauty and a sense of what you’re like from your pics. As they say, a picture is worth 1000 words. Your photos should tell a story about who you are. And for the love of God, no group pics (1 at max)!
Your photos should give an idea of what your lifestyle is like. If you want to attract a affluent man who is use to the finer things in life he should see you fitting into that mold from you pics. HOWEVER, there is a tasteful way to do this. If your photos do not paint the proper picture you risk giving the impression of instagram model vs refined classy woman. Think Kylie Jenner (no shade, i love her, but it’s giving a different vibe) vs Sofia Richie.
Include photos such as…
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- Smiling (this may seem like a no brainer, but you should definitely look happy in your pictures!)
- Show modesty
- I recommend not posting bikini pics, but if you do no more than 1
- showcase your sexiness without showing too much of your body
- Somewhere exotic
- Show a picture of you on vacation or traveling somewhere
- Traveling shows that you’re a worldly woman who has a in-depth view of the world. Most successful men want a woman who can experience new and exciting things with them, so by showing you travel can be intriguing.
- Show a picture of you on vacation or traveling somewhere
- Doing an activity
- Something that shows you live a active and full life. It doesn’t have to be an extravagant activity like skydiving, actually it should be something you do on a regular. This tell a man with or without him you have a interesting life full of things you enjoy!
- Share your hobbies (golfing, tennis, volleyball, exercising, hiking, etc)
- You could also include a picture of you volunteering, charity event, or gala
- Include both close ups (face) and full body
- There should be a clear picture of your beautiful face (again, don’t forget to smile!)
- You want to tastefully show off your figure
- Stay away from clothes/angles that reveal too much. You want to get him excited thinking about what you might look like/wear to a date, but nothing too blatantly sexy.
- (If possible) include a video
- A video allows you to show a little bit of personality, so upload something cute and playful – again, don’t forget to smile!
- No lip syncing or anything that looks like you take yourself too serious!
- A video allows you to show a little bit of personality, so upload something cute and playful – again, don’t forget to smile!
Bio/Engaging Prompts – Peak His Interest
Your pictures will get his attention, but your bio will create interest. Now he’s creating the story of who he thinks you might be! Thankfully these days many dating apps give you prompts, so it is much easier than crafting a full bio.
PRO TIP: never mention your job in your dating profile bio. There likely is already a section that asks about your job, so there’s no need to mention it again. You don’t want to lead with what you do for a living. Yes, you should be yourself and emphasize your passion(s), but you don’t want to give the impression that working is everything to you because it attracts men that want to use you for your resources.
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Instead talk about…
- Your feminine qualities
- Nurturing, kind, free-spirited, etc – I would emphasize the kind part because I continue to see men mention in their bio that it’s a quality they are looking for in a woman
- Pick prompts that are engaging
- Give him something to respond to! Make it easy for him to start a conversation with you based off of something you say on your profile. For example:
- based off of my profile what song makes you think of me?
- let’s debate: what’s the best date spot in the city?
- dinner or drinks for 1st date? (I personally only accept dinner dates for 1st dates)
- Give him something to respond to! Make it easy for him to start a conversation with you based off of something you say on your profile. For example:
- Things you’re passionate about
- Talk about your hobbies, travel, volunteering, art
- Don’t say anything silly like shopping or fine dining – it gives sugar baby vibes
- Mention the qualities you like in a man
- A good dating profile should be a mix between playful and serious. You should list the traits you are attracted to in a man such as: funny, ambitious, a gentleman, old-fashioned etc. in addition to playful prompts.
- It’s important you mention you want someone that loves what they do because it’s likely he’s successful and happy! That’s the kind a man you want! Not someone who hates their job and complains about it 24/7 because you will be miserable.
- A good dating profile should be a mix between playful and serious. You should list the traits you are attracted to in a man such as: funny, ambitious, a gentleman, old-fashioned etc. in addition to playful prompts.
What to look for on his dating profile?
Having an eye for what a quality man looks like takes time. Also, just because a man looks “rich” doesn’t mean he is, so there’s a lot of factors at play that go into what his profile should look like.
A accomplished man may be subtle in showcasing his wealth because, like you, he doesn’t want to attract the wrong type of women.
Here’s what you need to pay attention to in his dating profile…
- Examine his photos
- Where is he? Is he on a boat? Country club? At a convention? If he’s in what looks like his home, what do the finishes look like? The walls? Use every bit of information to determine the lifestyle this guy has.
- Some guys may have money but you can’t tell because from his pics. So you’ll have to take the overall profile in consideration when deciding
- What is he wearing? Are there logos like “Palm Beach Country Club” “XYZ Solutions”. He may be wearing a hat or quarter zip that give indication of where he may spend some time such as a country club or job swag. Pay attention to watches as well.
- Are his pictures professionally taken? If so, this likely means he’s career oriented and is a good sign!
- Where is he? Is he on a boat? Country club? At a convention? If he’s in what looks like his home, what do the finishes look like? The walls? Use every bit of information to determine the lifestyle this guy has.
- If he mentions anything tangible he wants from a woman
- Anything a man mentions he desires from a woman should be intangible. For example: authenticity, kindness, nuturing, etc.
- If he says, he wants a “independent/driven woman” that’s a red flag and bizzare to even mention. I understand men not wanting to be used for their resources, but this type of man will gaslight you into believing anything you ask for is you being a gold digger. Don’t even bother entertaining
- If he mentions wanting a woman to build with or buy him things (even a drink) it’s a no.
- READ HIS BIO: how does he like to spend his time?
- What he does for a living should always be on his profile. Some men don’t want to be googled, so they purposely leave this out, but more times than not it should be on his profile to some capacity.
- Does he discuss hobbies like golf, rock climbing, fishing (potentially), etc.
- If he mentions that he likes to spend his weekends going out for drinks, watching football, etc. He’s a child and needs to grow up. It’s fine if he enjoys these things occasionally, but if he leads with this it is probably how he spends most of his weekends *red flag*
When it comes to dating profiles and online dating it takes time to become skillful in identifying the type of man you’re looking for. Another pro-tip, don’t like them wait for them to like you (in regards to swipes). I regularly match with successful (age appropriate) men like high level executives, doctors, business owners, because like attracts like. You can have success and be one step closer to the man of your dreams by follows these tips and creating the perfect hinge dating profile.
