Working constantly makes me feel burnt out. I have no desire to prove my worth through productivity nor do I have any desire to engage in hustle culture. I’m sure many of us can relate to feeling like the pressure to perform is exhausting. This is likely why, “soft life” is the latest trend on social media and has taken the girlies on Tiktok by storm.
In this new soft life era apparently, no one has a job and everyone is a sahm or sahgf. While I understand the desire to escape the matrix and have a man you can fully depend on. Creating a more balanced and fulfilling life does not have to solely depend on your partner (though it helps!). Because let’s be honest, it’s hard enough finding a man with a provider mentality and we don’t have time to wait!
To clarify, when I say “I don’t want to work” what I mean is I don’t want to exhaust myself. I want to leisurely roll out of the bed at 8a and go to a workout class at 9a. I want to spend the majority of my time as I please while keeping my workload to a manageable amount.
However, I think we all still want the moolah! So how do we create a abundant life while still having a work life balance?
Step 1: Be willing to make sacrifices
There is no such thing as something for nothing. Get that out of your head! I know we sometimes want to be saved, but unfortunately life isn’t always a fairytale. Everything that we desire in life requires us to give up something else.
You want a better body? Give up junk food and exercise more. You want a better man? Give up your dusty! In order to bring in the new we have to get rid of the old. If you want a soft life you’re going to have to strategize and be willing to give up what is no longer serving you.
Step 2: Find a passion you can monetize
*major key*
As the saying goes, “if you love what you do you’ll never work a day in your life”. Find something you enjoy doing, and figure out how you can make money from it! Are you good at doing hair? Become a hairdresser. Are you the best dressed in your circle? Become a virtual stylist. I promise you, for whatever talent you have there are people out there willing to pay you for it!
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For myself, I love teaching and writing! Blogging is a great way to share my expertise, create passive income, and create the life of my dreams that doesn’t necessarily depend on me going into a job. Also, you can make money blogging with a relatively small audience.
Creating a business that doesn’t require to hustle 24/7 like freelance photography, selling digital products, creating a online business etc is ideal.
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Step 3: Invest, invest, invest
*another major key*
We all need money to survive. There’s no way around it! Ideally we would live a life where money isn’t a issue and if that is your goal you have to start investing ASAP! By investing in assets eventually those assets will make you money.
For example, instead of renting that $1500 apartment buy a multifamily property like a duplex or fourplex. That way you can live in one unit and rent out the others.
If being a landlord isn’t your thing, then invest in stocks like the S&P 500 (which is a index fund that is essentially many companies in one stock). Invest in stocks that will grow over time and make you more money than you bought them for. There are tons of ways to start invest: choose one!
A few types of investments
- Real estate
- Stocks
- Businesses
Now, I know you want to quit your job like yesterday, but there is no magic solution! If living is a soft life is a priority to you start today with these steps that will eventually allow you to either fully retire, or work minimally. If you don’t, you’ll just be stuck doing something you don’t enjoy or waiting for prince charming to come and save you (which may or may not happen)!
