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2020 is almost over (thank god!) and it looks like we somehow all survived. This year was full of new normals, lessons, and developing self-awareness.
In 2021 we are putting all our new found knowledge into practice. This year we’re showing up everyday for ourselves knowing anything is possible.
An intelligent graceful woman is not a everyday occurrence. Many women will not have the discipline or faith it takes to level up…. do not be the type of woman. Do not give up on yourself before making a breakthrough. The woman of your dreams is on the other side of your daily habits and direct effort.
Here are the top 7 things to focus on in 2021 to level up…
Keep your eyes on the prize
You are the prize! Focus on yourself sis, period. You and your goals are top priority. Nothing should be more important than your efforts to level up. Not a man, friend, or anything else that isn’t actively building you up. Distractions are there to do exactly that: distract you. This year we’re only putting energy into things that increase our self love, fulfill us, and help us grow into our best self.
For myself, I find writing down my daily and weekly tasks help me maintain focus. This is the planner I currently use, and by far one of my favorite planners.
Keep you eyes on yourself by..
- Using a planner: goal setting is extremely important in keeping focus
- Meditate: quiet the noise in your head
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Work on self-esteem and confidence
Inner beauty is the most important type of beauty there is. We are all unique and comparisons only rob us of our beautiful. There is no one like you. That is, and will always be, your magic #blackgirlmagic. To level up in 2021 we’re giving ourselves the love we deserve. Treating ourselves with compassion, patience, and understanding. No more scrolling on IG comparing ourselves to models or obsessing over the lifestyle people (allegedly) live.
In 2021, we’re walking into every room like the bad bitch we know we are. We are not settling for anything less than what intended for us.. and that’s a WHOLE LOT.
We can work on our self-esteem by..
- *Therapy: a must for healing and self-discovery
- Journaling: putting feelings into written words can provide a lot of clarity
- Prayer: prayer works!
Practice mindfulness
What we think we become (..unless it’s bad thoughts. That’s usually just anxiety). We all see the world through our own special lens. Some lens are colorful and dynamic while others are grey and one dimensional. If you want to level up in 2021 you have to remember that mindset is everything. When we think abundantly abundance appears. Don’t get sucked into the rabbit hole of thinking negatively. Observe and be curious about your negative thoughts, but do so objectively then let them pass. Know that you are the creator of your future, and it all starts with what you believe is possible for yourself.
For me, my planner and my journal are absolutely necessary for my sanity. When I neglect writing and planning my days I tend to into each other, and I barely leave the bed. By getting our goals and thoughts onto paper they are twice as likely to happen (fact!). Know that experience is there to help us learn, and don’t be too harsh on yourself for making mistakes.
This is one of the journals I like using, but any notebook will do
Things to keep in mind when practicing mindfulness..
- Think how people might respond before you speak
- Be patient with your progress – self-compassion is key 🔑
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Work on your appearance
A good looking woman is literally God’s gift to man. Your appearance is the first thing people see, and as they say, first impressions matter. For black women especially it’s important we break down stereotypes and present ourselves as the soft delicate women we are. Though we cannot change our inherent appearance there are things we can do to make ourselves more attractive.
Here are a few appearances changes to work on immediately…
- Good posture
- Friendly/Inviting face (smile bih!)
- Scent (body odor and breath)
- Attractive clothing
- Minimal/Light Makeup
- Well manicured (hair and nails)
Become health conscious
Listen.. in 2021 we’re having more home cooked meals, exercising, and staying hydrated. For the record let me state this once again: I will be a milf. I refuse to let myself go. I personally believe being fit gives you leverage in the high value dating market. A healthy diet starts with nutrition let’s make that a priority this year. One of my personal goals for 2021 is to become a runner.. I’ll keep you guys updated on how that turns out lol.
Ways to level up your health in 2021..
- Home cooked meals
- Drink plenty of water
- Add lots of veggies
- Exercise weekly
Work on your personality
This is a big one imo. A pretty face and nice figure can only get you so far, but substance will lead you to the promised land. To level up in 2021 and become the high value woman of your dreams a charming personality is a must. Are you outwardly kind? Is your tone when speaking pleasant?
Ways to work on your personality..
- Are you good at first impressions?
- Are you socially awkward?
- Do you think before you speak?
- How do people feel after spending time with you?
- Are you pleasant to be around?
Exude femininity
It’s the beauty you exude, the impression you make on people, your soft skin, etc. It’s the way you spread love and bring joy into the lives of those around you. Becoming a feminine woman means you emphasis softness over being right. For a lot of us, myself included, it takes work. It’s unlearning masculine habits and replacing them with healthy feminine ones.
Ways to increase femininity..
- Let go of control
- Pleasant tone of voice
- Stop being defensive
- Vulnerability
- Ability to receive
