If you met the man of your dreams tomorrow would you be able to recognize him? Assuming you’ve dated your fair share of dusties, as have I, and now you’re ready to level up in the dating game do you know what that looks like? In order to find a good man you have to be able to identify one. The traits of a high value man vary for each woman, but there are some core attributes all men must have.
Visualization is important to achieve everything we want in life. Manifesting a man is no different. You can find a man, that’s a seemingly good man, and still he lack the necessary tools to be considered a high value.
Too many misguided boys and self-proclaimed “alphas” have a distorted idea of what it means to be a high value man. A man that provides, protects, and loves his wife and family. A man of character and integrity. We have to get extremely clear in what it is we want in the man we’re looking for.
Here are 7 core traits of a high value man…
To you, to your plans, to his work, to his friends, to his family. He is a man of his word. If he says he’s going to do something he always follows through. A high value man is consistent. His words always match up with his actions. He may make mistakes, as no one is perfect, bit overall he’s a man that keeps his word. A man that shows commitment allows you to feel safe and secure with him because he is reliable. A man that can follow through on his word is worth his weight in gold.
Family is important to him
If his family is important to him one day your family will be important to him. The family you two have together. Being family oriented means long term close relationships are important to this man and that certainly is an ideal characteristic. The way he treats the women in his family are especially important. As the saying goes, “You can tell a lot about a man by the way he treats his mother”. This is very true. I have a family member that treats his mother terribly and it’s safe to assume it plays a part in why he’s still single.
He has direction in his life
Nothing is more attractive than a man with a purpose. A high value man is not wandering through life aimlessly he has goals that he is actively working towards. He may not know all the details to his plan, but he certainly has direction. A man without a plan is no man at all. That’s a boy. A lot of adult men are going through life with no direction and it’s obvious. Having no defined purpose will keep a man child from being high value.
This one goes back to commitment. In today’s world beautiful women are more accessible than ever. With option overload men easily are distracted by other women. A high value man understands the value of a good woman, and would never risk that for something new or shiny. He takes his commitment to you very seriously and outs you and the relationship first.
He takes care of the people he loves
His love is obvious because he shows it in his actions. Whatever his loved ones need he is right there ready to be of service. It gives him a sense of purpose to be able to help the ones he care about most. No matter the inconvenience he will always show up.
He pushes you to be a better woman
A high value man is an asset to your life. He makes your life easier by being in it, so that you can focus on what truly matter: your happiness and purpose. Not only does he want you to be a better woman for him, but for yourself. He accepts you for who you are, but is constantly challenging you to be the best version of yourself.
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You never have to tell this man twice what you need from him. He goes out of his way to accomplish all his goals because it’s the only way he can feel good about himself as a man. Fulfilling his plans are at the top of his agenda. This man understands it takes a lot of resources to live the life he desires and although his confidence may fluctuate, which should be a reminder to be his biggest supporter, he never takes his eyes off the prize. That being a man of high esteem you can respect who provides for his family.